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Avoiding grief is what traps us

This is a season of grieving.  Recently I learned that another someone I loved passed away.  This is a moment all of us must face, of course, but knowing that does nothing to minimize the pain. It’s been a year of so many goodbyes.

I’d called her my bonus Mom for more than thirty years, and this weekend while we were at the farmer’s market–before I learned she’d died–I bought a basket of big Italian plums to make her kuchen. Yes, it’s true, I bought Italian fruit to make a German cake, but that’s just how it turned out.  Funny how I thought of making that particular recipe on that day, isn’t it?  The fruit has been sitting on my counter, but in the morning, I’ll remember her love of baking for all of us as I make it. I know the making, baking and eating of it will bring comfort.

In the wee hours of darkness, when I was remembering her first hug, her weekly phone calls, her pride in me as I grew from an awkward teen into a, well, still-awkward adult, I stumbled across a blog post that soothed the ache in my heart. Here’s a sneak peek.

If we could realize that grief is not the enemy; rather, avoiding it is what traps us and captures us so that we are prisoners.

Alice Wisler

Broken Psalms

DSCN4456And, because cooking was such a love language for her,  here’s the recipe for her plum cake.

11 comments on “Avoiding grief is what traps us

  1. joan long
    September 23, 2013

    Sorry for your loss. Praying God s peace.

  2. savvysheep
    September 23, 2013

    I’m sorry. 😦 It definitely is a season of mourning. I just got back from a funeral today. God is with us, even when we are hurting. We don’t have to be strong…we can lean on Him completely. Peace be with you, my friend.

  3. Joelle
    September 23, 2013

    I am sorry for your loss sweet friend. I am keeping you close in my prayers. Thank you for sharing Alice’s blog – what a wise woman.

    • Crystal Thieringer
      September 23, 2013

      Thanks, Joelle. I’ve been reading through her posts as well. There is much to think about!

  4. Alice J. Wisler
    September 23, 2013

    Thanks so much for sharing from my blog, Crystal. Hugs to you today and special comfort. I hope you will have many pleasant healing memories as you face this journey of grief and miss your “Bonus Mom”.

    • Crystal Thieringer
      September 23, 2013

      Your words have touched many hearts, Alice. And yes, there is much grace in this time. Blessings on you.

  5. Melody
    September 24, 2013

    I love that quote…definitely gives me something to think about.

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